15 Comments

This was a fun one Matt and I resonate with a lot of your F plus and minuses. I'd add Friendship with a capital "F" to the list of F's I have to give. The older I get, the more my friends matter. And on the minus side, I have no F left to give to Fashion, not that it was ever a strong suit. It's a classic aging thing I guess, but it's such a relief to not have to look a certain way before leaving the house, though I do still make sure pants are on.

Expand full comment
author

Friends is a good one! And yes, I see the pun in saying fashion was never a strong suit ...

Expand full comment

Is a Happy Birthday in order?

I too agree with you about travel; after the better part of a lifetime of traveling, I’ve had it.

The Tao Te Ching figured this out a long time ago: “The sage sits in his room and knows the whole world.”

Expand full comment
author

Thanks Chris. You always have the perfect quote!

Expand full comment

Has the big day arrived already? If so, happy birthday!!

Loving your list and I think you are right with most! Only caveat is that I will cram myself into a metal tube in the next years and then get a chance to meet you in person (which I’m already looking forward to!)

Expand full comment
author

Thanks Tobi. Hope you are resting!

Expand full comment

I am with you on the need for fulfilling work. And on the overvaluation of travel. Excellent post.

Expand full comment
author

Thanks Anthony!

Expand full comment
Dec 13, 2023Liked by Matt Tillotson

Might be your best one yet!

Expand full comment

Happy birthday, Matt! Love the theme of this. I would like to say I don't give an F about pleasing other people or being liked, but I'm still working on it. I very much give an F about having hard conversations. Neither of these start with the letter F, but you know what I mean.

Expand full comment
author

Thanks! F is a state of mind, not just a letter ...

Expand full comment

I appreciate your unpopular opinion on travel. Someone had to say it!

For me, it's nice to be in different places, especially when it involves visiting with friends, but I hate the process of getting there. Planes, trains, and automobiles -- no, thank you!

Being content at home made the stay-at-home orders during the Pandemic very bearable for me.

Expand full comment

Such a great, conversational topic and list! My life changed for the better when a mentor suggested I only give one F a week.

I’m with you on not following current events. I was convinced to follow it so I could engage in conversations with educated people. What I’ve found is I prefer to know what people are thinking about, feeling, and experiencing.

Our views change as we get older and I imagine will change again when we hit the next milestone. I wonder what Fs we’ll let go of and which we’ll pick up.

It was nice to be able to listen to this

Expand full comment
author

I'm starting to think educated people today pay less attention to "current events", and instead focus on other interests and endeavors.

Expand full comment

Great piece Matt, lots of solid points. I agree that with age I have thrown quite a few F’s out the window. After a successful and satisfying career, I have found far more fulfillment in non profit work and mentorship thsn I ever had in making money and garnering big titles. But I have to say that fulfillment comes because I am helping leave this world better for my kids and grandson. To those ends, none of us can afford to look the other way as many of our leaders make illegal, illicit, and immoral choices to lead our country down the wrong path. I was never that p9litical when I was younger, I didn't have time. But now I fear if too many of us remain silent, the crazies will take over and the current trend is sadly proving me right. After a lifetime of weekly flights going back to the days of dressing up to get on an airplane, I agree with you flying is far closer to a Greyhound Bus ride these days. I am enjoying driving car more. But as I dive into this third chapter, I don’t think it is going to broaden my knowledge staying in my little corner of the world. Aren't we all far more likely to understand each other if we see first hand how others live, eat, and create? I'm putting a lot of f’s towards a long awaited trip to my Grandparents homeland of Greece in the fall, and I believe those trips are an important part of avoiding the limited perspective that comes from staying too close to home for too long. Despite my counter points, this was a great piece that also made me think-especially about how often I offhandedly use the F word!

Expand full comment